by cataclyzm » Sun May 16, 2004 10:35 am
It's odd,
In UK society, someone always has to be blamed for everything. It's seeb as your own fault or someone else's fault, and with no real understanding that sometimes things just happen.
What frustrates me, and which I actually find despairing and sad, is that people are so quick to judge and condemn others when you have absolutely no idea what brought them to that place of being. Maybe you think that is "bollocks", if so, then I think you have issues to confront in your own life.
Do you know what, yes it's true, sometimes in life, people are victims of circumstances(often unimaginable) and usually within "families". Conditional love and obligations of fulfilment that some "parents" require of their children, regardless of wealth or poverty or where they live.
I believe that most parents demand certain things from their children, and in turn, those children become unhappy adults, who go on to do the same from other members of society.
We're all expected to aspire to the same "dream" of owning a house and having a healthy bank balance, when many of us have learned that there's a whole lot more to life than these temporary and fleeting goals that never bring contentment or peace.
I think a lot of the pain and resentment in this forum, regarding the homeless/ the chemically addicted/the mentally ill, are about that precious "goal" which so many assimilate as their own, not being a part of those disenfranchised people's lives. I think the anger in blaming those victims of society, comes from the cruelty of those childhood days, and that conditional love, that obligation "to do" and "to have", and bollocks to who you really are. The anger and misunderstanding is from your own fears, and your own personal dislike of who you really are and the lives you have , and the goals you so would like to please those "others".
I think you've condemned those, who are so unlike you, and that difference frightens you, because in that difference exists all that you have failed to confront in your life and the conditional love you received from those who could have and should have loved you unconditionally, but chose not to. So you have every right to be angry, but it's sad to pick the most vulnerable and there is no way I am going to back down from defending those people.
You might not like me for doing it, but I believe in truth - not just partial blame and fearful judgment.
Maybe one day you will learn to like and love yourselves, when others couldn't, but until you have the courage to confront that challenge, leave the poor and vulnerable alone.